As we were driving up to the Draper Temple Sheila got Sherri, the birthday girl, on the phone.  I didn't think about it much then because the phone was dying and so we sang fast and we were off and she was off to another busy, busy night.  But thinking about our family with a 41 year history is a bit awesome to me.  Here I am, an old man with a memory of almost 65 years and that is a really interesting feeling.  I don't often spend much time thinking about my past, but things come up all the time that bring it to my mind.  Next Monday our first grandchild, Nicholas, will be graduating from high school. We attended that viewing the other night which was all about my early years from Jr. high through high school.  We see you kids going through busy, hectic and wonderful experiences ( along with some bad times too) and we remember that we went through that stuff too.  Right now we are at a stage that is different and I am so glad that I don't have the kind of schedules that you have.  I couldn't do all of that now.  With Sheila working now it has changed our dynamics a lot.  She is only working part time, but for the next couple of weeks she'll be doing 5 and 1/2 hours a day.  I notice that when she got the calls for her current schedule and when she goes off to work she is happy.  And that makes me happy.  It is a good thing for her, and I need to support her in it, and I do.  Funny how my own work keeps changing too. I sit around and wait for Richard to get back, and my mind is relaxed and then he comes in with stuff that now needs to be worked and I wonder how I can get it all handled.  I have tried to narrow my focus to make my life simple, but there is still 'work enough to do till the sun goes down'.  I would like to be more involved in your lives, but my life doesn't always let that happen.  I have to keep reminding myself that I'm not done yet, even though sometimes the thought does appeal to me.  It is a funny dichotomy this idea that we live our separate lives yet at the same time we cannot separate our lives from the lives of others, especially our family's lives.  It might be easier if we could, but that ideas really has no appeal for me.  Give me the complicated, difficult and even painful way if it is the way that keeps us connected.  Make sure that you take advantage of each day as it comes to you.  It really does go by faster then you think.