I didn't give it a whole lot of thought at the time.  But now in retrospect I see just what a marvelous job my wife and the matriarch of our clan did with her contribution to our fhe last night.  She provided most of the meal and as usual she did some fretting about what she was going to present.  We had talked about it earlier and she had asked for a few suggestions from others, but I wasn't aware of what she was going to do, and I hadn't really concerned myself about it.  I did know that she had a plan for part of it at least a week ahead of time because she had to buy the dowels and get Robert to cut them before Saturday night when she prepared the bread sticks which she had learned about at a Relief Society thing a couple of weeks ago.  Then when I heard 'pasta bar' I had and idea, but did not appreciate the scope of that project nor the amount of work it required.  Later last night when we sat for a moment after all had gone and our day was near finished she asked me if she had succeeded.  I said 'yes', but that didn't say enough.  "YES" you did succeed as you have always succeeded.  We (I) take it all for granted, but for once and right now I really want you to know just how much you have succeeded.  But words will never be sufficient I will just have walk and walk as well as talk the talk.  Yes, yes yes.